WHY DO WORDS HAVE POWER OVER US AND HOW TO TAKE IT BACK
In this final episode of this season, I share what I have learned from my mentors and various mystics about the words and how words get power over us.
We have all heard that "Words have power", but we don't know why and how to take this power back.
I share the three keys that give words power -
- Meaning
- Context
- Emotional Judgement
Listen to this short episode and I am sure about two things
- You may be surprised to find the relation between words you speak and your current reality
- You will be able to take the power from the words back if you become conscious and use the tools in the episode.
What was your biggest takeaway from this episode? Do let me know in the comments.
List of Powerful words:
Use the words on Left side of the pages.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1zrZBAAaUDKcu2GAKee0SxUIRz1FfU1VX/view?usp=sharing
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Transcript
Welcome everyone.
Speaker:I am so excited to share about the topic that I'm going to talk today
Speaker:because it is one of the things that I made a change
Speaker:in the last one year and, you know, gave me greater rewards.
Speaker:It is.
Speaker:These are like really small, tangible things.
Speaker:But as I look back into my year, these are the things that made
Speaker:a biggest difference in my, you know, career change.
Speaker:They helped me immensely grow.
Speaker:And they are simple, powerful and profound,
Speaker:and that's why I am so excited to share with them.
Speaker:So without further due let's begin.
Speaker:We all have heard this term.
Speaker:Words have power, right?
Speaker:We all have in some situation or the other
Speaker:we would have either read it, had heard from somebody that words have power.
Speaker:Well, I'm going to
Speaker:tell you, it's not the complete truth,
Speaker:words do have power, but
Speaker:we have to understand how do the words get that power right?
Speaker:How do the words get power and why does it matter?
Speaker:And that's what I'm going to break it to you.
Speaker:There are three things that are important that really give words
Speaker:the power, the words, you know, words, the power that they have.
Speaker:First is the meaning, right, meaning
Speaker:is meaning whatever the word means.
Speaker:You know, that can be the one
Speaker:that gives its power,
Speaker:especially if you know the meaning.
Speaker:Second thing is the context.
Speaker:Context
Speaker:is about
Speaker:who said it, where it was said how it was said, you know,
Speaker:who was all there, who all were there when it was sad.
Speaker:You know, it's just, said environment, the setting, the place.
Speaker:It's a little bit complex
Speaker:on the
Speaker:context side of the things, but really it's a gist of,
Speaker:you know, who said it, where it was said, how it was said, what tone was used.
Speaker:And you know, what was the actual context of the conversation itself?
Speaker:Lastly, but importantly.
Speaker:The emotional judgment we have towards the context and the meaning of the word.
Speaker:What do I mean by that?
Speaker:You know, we all have some emotional judgement or,
Speaker:you know, builtin belief
Speaker:about the person, context, conversation, etc.
Speaker:And that is what we use to form
Speaker:a reaction or a response towards
Speaker:different situations or different words.
Speaker:Let me explain you by giving an example.
Speaker:Or let's use the word "Stupid" right?
Speaker:In different scenarios, and let's see how it unfolds.
Speaker:So first scenario, let's say you're sitting with your friend,
Speaker:sitting with a group
Speaker:of friends, you're in a party, you're joking, you're having a lot of fun,
Speaker:conversations, jokes going around and somebody in the midst.
Speaker:The conversation just calls you stupid for something.
Speaker:"You are stupid for saying that".
Speaker:A more likely than it's
Speaker:more likely that you would not take that word
Speaker:as offensive in this situation,
Speaker:the meaning is same that, you know, you lack intelligence or you you lack
Speaker:common sense, that's the literal meaning of the word stupid.
Speaker:But because of the context which is your friends
Speaker:during a party, when you guys are joking around
Speaker:in a conversation, somebody says stupid.
Speaker:Does not matter, right?
Speaker:So you don't have any emotional attachment
Speaker:towards the contacts and nothing happens.
Speaker:Now let's switch the context a little bit and see how it changes.
Speaker:Let's see, you're in a meeting at a work,
Speaker:you know, seven, eight people, different people.
Speaker:And amidst the conversation, somebody calls you stupid for doing something.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:That's probably going to have some reaction.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:You're not going to like it because of where you are,
Speaker:the people, the work and when we are at work.
Speaker:Somebody calling stupid is, you know, questioning our intelligence.
Speaker:Common sense it's not.
Speaker:gonna be well-received.
Speaker:I'm not saying somebody should call you stupid, but
Speaker:just for a scenario perspective.
Speaker:Now, let's add fuel to the fire.
Speaker:How about that somebody who calls you stupid is your either your boss
Speaker:that you're not getting along or maybe your computer
Speaker:or maybe somebody at work, you just don't get along.
Speaker:You just do not gel.
Speaker:You have different wipes.
Speaker:Oh, boy,
Speaker:that's going to have a very, very different reaction.
Speaker:You know, we all can agree on that one, that our emotional judgment
Speaker:on that context on that were rile us up.
Speaker:We may not even respond.
Speaker:We just may burst out and say something back to,
Speaker:you know, cover that scenario.
Speaker:So in this scenario, we saw the context and our emotional attachment
Speaker:toward or emotional judgment towards that context,
Speaker:you know, shapes our reaction
Speaker:or response to that word.
Speaker:How about let's use another scenario.
Speaker:Let's Let's say
Speaker:that let's say you are walking down the street
Speaker:and something happens, you don't even know that
Speaker:something happened and somebody sees something on the street.
Speaker:And this somebody is a stranger.
Speaker:You don't know what he or she
Speaker:said, because you know, you don't understand their language.
Speaker:They are talking in very different language.
Speaker:And if you don't if you didn't notice that expression,
Speaker:their fears are more, who are they talking to?
Speaker:You are more likely to keep on walking and doing your thing and do not,
Speaker:you know, not get bothered because you don't understand the meaning, the meaning.
Speaker:The word has no meaning to you.
Speaker:The context has no meaning to you.
Speaker:This is a stranger,
Speaker:in your mind.
Speaker:You didn't do something wrong,
Speaker:and so you don't even have any emotional judgment.
Speaker:So in that context, the words do not have power at you at all.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:Whatever was said or done, it was with the stranger
Speaker:who said it in the language that you wouldn't even know understand
Speaker:So makes sense.
Speaker:It's so, you know, it's not just the words.
Speaker:It's actually the meaning that we give to the words,
Speaker:the context and the emotion of judgment we give to the context
Speaker:and the meaning itself.
Speaker:That's what really gives words the power
Speaker:as much as we all
Speaker:would want to control the kind of words people use for us.
Speaker:You will not receive the kind words we want to receive, the appreciation
Speaker:we we cannot control everything right.
Speaker:We cannot control what people see.
Speaker:We can just be ourselves and let people do whatever they do, right.
Speaker:But the reason I'm making this episode is that words
Speaker:also have more profound power
Speaker:when we are speaking these words to ourselves.
Speaker:We all do right.
Speaker:I remember that whenever I would miss something, I'll I'll do something wrong.
Speaker:You know, I might end up saying, I always make that mistake, right?
Speaker:Especially when I was doing programing.
Speaker:I would make similar kind of mistakes, and I would say I always make that mistake.
Speaker:And sure enough, my words were creating the reality.
Speaker:My body and mind was like, Yeah, your wish is my command.
Speaker:You said you always make mistakes and you're always going to make mistake.
Speaker:That was becoming my reality.
Speaker:If you don't believe
Speaker:about take an inventory list down,
Speaker:the words you use on a regular basis like we all has.
Speaker:Have some words, especially when we're talking to our sales list on some words,
Speaker:less than 20 words that you use on a regular basis with yourself
Speaker:when you're talking about yourself, telling
Speaker:about yourself to people or,
Speaker:you know, whatever, throughout your day.
Speaker:Notice how you're talking
Speaker:and the words you're using less than those words
Speaker:and then look at the reality your real life like.
Speaker:You will see
Speaker:the synergies between the like more than likely,
Speaker:whatever you tell yourself, whether I suck at this.
Speaker:I am always making this mistake.
Speaker:I always forget these things.
Speaker:I always do this things wrong.
Speaker:I cannot do this.
Speaker:What I would, those words are.
Speaker:The reality is just going to match up with that, that's,
Speaker:you know, there's an absolute size on that one.
Speaker:You know, Bruce Lee said this a long time ago
Speaker:as one of his quote that "Do not speak
Speaker:negatively about yourself, even as a joke.
Speaker:Words are energy, They cast spells.
Speaker:That's why they're called Spelling's.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:So be very mindful about the words that you're talking to yourself.
Speaker:Now, obviously, I am super.
Speaker:I missed this. I always do it.
Speaker:Never talk to yourself in absolute terms unless it's positive, right?
Speaker:Whenever you make a mistake, it's sort of saying, I always make a mistake.
Speaker:You can say I made a mistake this time, right?
Speaker:Or I missed it this time.
Speaker:But when you add an absolute
Speaker:statement to the
Speaker:word like, I always do this.
Speaker:You're just creating your reality, you're telling your universe,
Speaker:your body, your mind who you are, and sure enough, that's who you are.
Speaker:I think of it less plastic.
Speaker:Compare ourselves with animals.
Speaker:Imagine this a Lloyd.
Speaker:As hiding behind the bushes.
Speaker:And there's a deer is eating grass,
Speaker:maybe 50 feet away and deer is busy.
Speaker:So focus on the,
Speaker:you know, the food just eating it does not know the danger,
Speaker:even though it's cautious, but it does not know about the danger.
Speaker:Yet here the lion is sitting
Speaker:behind the bushes, waiting for the perfect moment
Speaker:where it can leap and, you know, get its target.
Speaker:So it just crawls slowly, slowly, slowly
Speaker:keeps coming closer.
Speaker:And then in a moment, it just leaps.
Speaker:And. And
Speaker:for some reasons, Deer
Speaker:realizes in the nick of the moment, an escape.
Speaker:And the Lion misses their target.
Speaker:What do you think, Lion tells itself?
Speaker:Rather, imagine
Speaker:if lion in that moment said, I always
Speaker:miss it. I never get target.
Speaker:I never, you know, make the strike properly
Speaker:or my leap is bad, my jump is bad if it says like
Speaker:I always miss my target.
Speaker:We can all agree that it's not good lion,
Speaker:the lion is not good at hunting at all, it's going to die hungry, right?
Speaker:Because if Lion cannot tell its self that
Speaker:you know, it's good,
Speaker:always, it's going to be good anyway.
Speaker:We don't know where the line talks like that.
Speaker:More than likely it does not.
Speaker:It does not get the animals to not have those emotional judgments
Speaker:towards their actions.
Speaker:That's all I think
Speaker:about that.
Speaker:But the lesson from that is stop having
Speaker:emotional judgment and reactions towards words.
Speaker:Start using the words that are,
Speaker:you know, powerful that create the reality that we want to live in, right?
Speaker:When we when we receive a compliment from somebody
Speaker:is sort of saying that I am not that person.
Speaker:No, no. You're just being kind.
Speaker:You know how often we do that. I've done that.
Speaker:When somebody says gives me a nice compliment.
Speaker:Even though I know that person just to be humble
Speaker:and not knowing how to fully receive, I would say you're just being kind.
Speaker:I'm not that.
Speaker:Look what I am doing in that scenario,
Speaker:I'm just telling universe, I'm not that person.
Speaker:So now and I will never do that.
Speaker:Never use the words
Speaker:negative words for talking yourself.
Speaker:Always when somebody gives you a compliment, recieve it fully
Speaker:just thank them, thank them and say you're kind.
Speaker:Thank you for recognizing.
Speaker:Receive it fully. Let it come to your world.
Speaker:Let the compliments be the signal from the universe that you are doing.
Speaker:Whatever you're doing is right.
Speaker:That's where you're heading, right?
Speaker:Receive it fully.
Speaker:Hafiz said it, And this is
Speaker:I don't know, I think I, if I'm not mistaken, Hafiz lived
Speaker:thousands of years ago and he said.
Speaker:Your words become the house you live in.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:He was one of the mystics, thousands of years back.
Speaker:And that's what he said.
Speaker:Your words become the house you live in.
Speaker:Now let's go back to this exercise that I asked you to do.
Speaker:Look at the world, look at your reality.
Speaker:The reason your words
Speaker:are becoming your reality because your words are the house you live
Speaker:in, so be really mindful about the words that you use.
Speaker:I'll share one of the words that I used,
Speaker:I used to use a lot.
Speaker:And I change because one of the minders
Speaker:told me that, you know.
Speaker:The implications of using that word, so I used to say
Speaker:I am trying like I'm trying to speak, I'm trying to get more engagement.
Speaker:I'm trying to do this.
Speaker:I'm trying to prove that I was one of the things
Speaker:my response to natural response when I was doing something new.
Speaker:But inherently,
Speaker:though, trying has a meaning, the trying means
Speaker:you're not giving your holding of something, you're just giving
Speaker:just enough to make it work, but you're not committed.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:When my mentor told me, if you say you're trying, that means you're not committed.
Speaker:I really had to think about it like, am I committed?
Speaker:Or am I a not committed?
Speaker:So when I have to do something new,
Speaker:somebody offers me or somebody tells me to do something new.
Speaker:Instead of saying I'm going to try.
Speaker:I think about consciously think, am I going to do it?
Speaker:But am I just fooling them that I'm going to do it?
Speaker:Because if I remember fooling them
Speaker:and I don't have commitment with myself and with them, I'm just going to say
Speaker:I'm trying because then I as a cop out , I'm going to go back and say, I tried.
Speaker:It didn't work.
Speaker:But if I am committed, I should be saying, I'm going to do it.
Speaker:And then I find a way to make it happen, right?
Speaker:So he's what I see. I do it.
Speaker:All I
Speaker:say, I cannot do it, I I will not do it.
Speaker:But I am not going to say I'm going to try.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:So trying is really
Speaker:when you're trying some food, you're tasting, yes,
Speaker:that is what trial trying is when it comes to work,
Speaker:when it comes to action, when it comes to doing either doing it or, you know,
Speaker:you're not doing there is no middle ground right in the middle ground is just a
Speaker:cop out mechanism.
Speaker:So that's one of the words that I change
Speaker:because my mentor told me that this is what I'm subconsciously
Speaker:telling my mind about my commitment towards whatever action I was saying.
Speaker:I'm trying.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:I hope this was helpful.
Speaker:Actually, I know if you apply, this will be helpful, I don't hope I already know.
Speaker:My hope is that you will try.
Speaker:There I said the phrase golden word.
Speaker:My hope is you actually will implement these,
Speaker:you know, activities.
Speaker:You will implement some of the things that I talked about
Speaker:and what I'm going to do is I'm going to share a list of words as a link
Speaker:in the video
Speaker:in the video link in the comments where I.
Speaker:This video is depending on the platform you will see
Speaker:there is a link on the list of the words that I have replaced.
Speaker:And you can pick up some of those words and play around with and do.
Speaker:Let me know, what did you take away from this episode
Speaker:or whether you learned something new or whether it was boring, whatever it was?
Speaker:Give me more.
Speaker:Was your take away from the episode?
Speaker:And what would you like to hear more?
Speaker:Thank you so much.
Speaker:See you next time around.
Speaker:All right.
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